1、Unit Fifteen Visiting Etiquette拜访礼仪面试礼仪拜访礼仪面试礼仪Focal Points1. How to be a polite guest 2. Etiquette when visiting a foreign country3. How to visit friends at collegeContentsLead in1Reading A2Reading B3Reading C45ExercisesTest your cross-cultural etiquette.1. Dropping your chopsticks in China is cons
2、idered bad luck. A. True B. False2. In Belarus what is the most popular drink at a business gathering? A. Wine B. Vodka C. Beer 3. In South Korea it is considered polite to: A. Finish all the food on your plate B. Refuse offers of more food at least 3 times C. Pay for the meal even if you are the gu
3、est 4. Who pays for a meal in France? A. Everyone shares it B. Host C. Guest 5. Jews are forbidden from eating which of these? A. Duck B. Lobster C. Tuna 6. At a dinner in Hong Kong where will the guest of honour be seated? A. To the left of the host B. To the right of the host C. Opposite the hostW
4、arming upTest your cross-cultural etiquette.7. While in South Korea, you present a gift to a new client to thank him for his hospitality and to cement your business relationship. He/she refuses to accept the gift. You should: A. Apologize for offending him/her B. Insist he/she takes it until it is a
5、ccepted C. Offer it to someone else from his/her company 8. You are making a proposal to a group of Japanese executives when you notice a few of them sat with their arms folded and eyes closed. They are: A. Listening intently B. Tired and catching up on some sleep C. Pretending to be asleep to show
6、you that they think your presentation is poor Warming upBeing a Proper Houseguest August is one of the most popular vacation months of the year. For many business people, vacation includes spending treasured time visiting friends and relatives around the country and around the world. Employ these si
7、mple tips to being an outstanding houseguest, and ensure that both you and your hosts will enjoy your visit: 1. Bring a “hostess” gift. Even when staying just one night, always present your host with a house gift shortly after your arrival. Good gift ideas include attractively wrapped kitchen tools,
8、 a book, candles, a collectible1 your host will treasure, and specialty food and wine you know they will enjoy. The main criteria should be that it be something your host will appreciate. Reading ABeing a Proper Houseguest 2. Make yourself useful. Offer to help with meal preparation, dishes, and oth
9、er chores as though you were a member of the household. Do not expect your hosts to wait on you hand and foot throughout your stay. A nice gesture during an extended stay is to treat your hosts to dinner at a nice restaurant or cook them dinner at home one evening. 3. Be grateful and flexible about
10、foods and eating times. Except for medical and religious restrictions, avoid dictating meal times and what your hosts serve. If you do have food restrictions, let your hosts know with a simple note prior to your arrival. If you have special food or beverage needs, bring these items with you. Reading
11、 ABeing a Proper Houseguest 4. Keep your space tidy. Make your bed each day, keep your belongings put away, and leave the room or sleeping area in neat order at all times. Because guest spaces are often used by the family for other purposes, leave your door slightly ajar when not in the room, so tha
12、t your hosts can access the room as necessary. 5. Be diligent in the bathroom. Never leave the bathroom in a mess. Wipe the sink and shower, neatly hang your towels, and close the lid on the commode after each use. Reading ABeing a Proper Houseguest 6. Ask permission to use any item in the house. Le
13、ave money for any telephone and other charges (including utilities) you may have incurred during your stay. Be sensitive to whatever guidelines your hosts may have for the use of all items in their home. 7. Share your schedule. While you cannot expect your hosts to entertain you throughout your visi
14、t, a good host will feel a sense of responsibility for your well-being, and want to know when to expect you in their home. Provide your hosts your general daily itineraryprimarily when you may be expected to leave and return each day. Carry your hosts home and business address and telephone numbers
15、with you to keep in touch if you will be delayed or in case of emergency. If you have a cell phone, leave the number with your hosts too.Reading ABeing a Proper Houseguest 8. Be grateful, and let your hosts know. Write a thank you note to your host upon your return home. Reciprocate in-kind whenever
16、 possible, by offering to host your hosts for a visit. When you make yourself an outstanding guest, you may often hear my house is your house. MOST IMPORTANTLY: Leave the space ready for the next guest. The day you leave, strip the bed, place all soiled linens and towels neatly in pillow cases, and
17、set the cases near the laundry facilities. Re-cover the bed with the bedspread so it will look fresh until the next guest arrives. Finally, check the space to be sure you havent left any personal items behind.Reading AEtiquette When Visiting a Foreign Country Although there is some room for forgiven
18、ess if a foreign visitor makes a number of social mistakes in your country, you can always do better by doing research and knowing more about a particular culture or practice. Etiquette will vary, depending on the country you are visiting. It is important that you know a few guidelines to avoid emba
19、rrassment and trouble.Doing Research First of all, you have to research about the particular country you intend to visit. View their political past and other traditions. Talk to some of the locals online before visiting and ask about some common practices that will convey you as a respectful individ
20、ual. You can take a short language course to learn the basicReading BEtiquette When Visiting a Foreign Countrysentences. You can create a simple vocabulary of the most common words, together with the right manner of saying it. You will get a friendlier response from the locals if they see that you t
21、ried to study a bit. Trying Out New Things Try to experience the new flavors, sights and sounds. Do not always stick to American fast food chains. You should study the basic dishes and meals served by the country you are visiting. If invited for dinner, learn how to behave around the table. Some cou
22、ntries find it rude if you refuse to taste some food offered to you. Observe how others behave at the table and just follow. Most of the table manners you are already practicing in your country may relatively be the same as in a foreign nation.Reading BEtiquette When Visiting a Foreign Country Alway
23、s dress conservatively and in a manner that will ask for respect from the locals. If you are visiting religious sites, make sure that you do not have revealing clothes. Wear comfortable walking shoes, instead of sneakers to be ready for anything. You should also bring cash and your credit card, just
24、 in case you need to pay for certain fees. Make sure you exchanged your dollars beforehand. Read laws and other rules about alcohol consumption, operation of motor vehicles, smoking and other common behaviors. Abide by these at all times. You may be surprised to discover that punishment in other nat
25、ions is much heavier compared to your own country for similar offenses.Reading BEtiquette When Visiting a Foreign CountryFrom Home Small gestures in your home country can significantly be misinterpreted. For example, nodding your head means agreement in America, but it means disagreement in Bulgaria
26、. Physical gestures are highly important especially if you are communicating with the locals. In China, you will need to bring a calculator to haggle or purchase goods from the local merchants. You can bring a pen and paper while traveling to help you draw maps and find exact locations.Reading BEtiq
27、uette When Visiting a Foreign Country Smiling is a general gesture that conveys friendliness. Avoid, however, whispering or laughing at religious sites because this is a sign of disrespect. Feel free to ask your business guide about certain behaviors so you can enjoy the entire experience. Ask how t
28、o properly greet new people, since you should expect to meet new faces during your trip.Reading BVisiting Friends at College It may be hard having your friends scattered all over the country, but remember, having friends at different schools means having somewhere to stay in a variety of cities and
29、small towns. If youre a freshman, spring is the perfect time to visit a friend, now that everyone is adjusted and into the groove of things at her/his school. And if youre a senior, you better go visit your friends while you still have the chance before youre sent off into the (and we hate to say it
30、) Real World. So as you pack your bags and get ready to visit your friend, heres a helpful guide of visiting your friends at school. Reading CVisiting Friends at College1. DO wait at least a semester to visit. College is a period of change and adjustment for everyone, especially in the beginning. Th
31、at being said, you might want to wait a semester before you start traveling around the country to visit your different friends. If your friend is a freshman in college, wait at least a semester or quarter before you visit her/him. Theyre still getting acquainted with college life and dont want you p
32、estering them just yet.Reading CVisiting Friends at College2. DONT just use your friends dorm as a hotel room. If you are going to visit your friend, you should be prepared to spend time with your friend! This was a problem for Cassidy, a senior at Emerson College; when her friend came to visit duri
33、ng her freshman year, she ended up leaving Cassidy to hang out with people from another school in the area. “I was really excited for her to visit, and meet my friends and see what I do at school,” Cassidy said. “But when she got here, she wasnt really interested in meeting or hanging out with my fr
34、iendsshe knew a few boys in Harvard in a Final Club so she wanted to go hang out with them instead. We ended up getting in a huge fight and it kind of ruined our weekend!”Reading CVisiting Friends at College3. DO make an effort to get to know your friends friends. Of course, youre there to see your
35、friend, but dont forget about her friends too! Keep in mind that youre the guest, and try not to interfere too much with their regular social life. Besides, if you have the mutual friend, youll probably get along well! 4. DO bring a hostess gift for your friend. It doesnt have to be anything big, bu
36、t something to show your host that you appreciate her hospitality. Some ideas for gifts could be a bottle of wine, for you and your friend to enjoy together, some homemade baked goods (because who doesnt love that?) or maybe a shirt from your school store. Something small andReading CVisiting Friend
37、s at Collegepersonal will do the trick! Or, if you dont bring a gift, you can show your appreciation on the spot. Rachel, a senior at Northeastern, had her friend treat her to brunch to show her gratitude after visiting, she said, “it was adorable and super sweet.”5. DONT be picky. About your plans,
38、 about food, or anything else; show your appreciation by being a gracious guest, rather than one who complains constantly. Remember that just because you are used to better dining hall food, a different type of party or anything else doesnt mean that what youre doing wont be fun as well. Try to make
39、 the best of having an alternative experience than the one you usually have. Reading CVisiting Friends at College6. DO ask your friend what you need to bring ahead of time. When visiting a friend at another school, make sure you come prepared! Nothing is worse than showing up with completely inappro
40、priate attire, whether that means dressing more casually to go out or just remembering the essential outerwear. Just make sure you askyoull be thankful later! 7. DO extend an offer to your friend to visit you. Invite your friend to visit you! That way, you each get a chance to experience each others
41、 college life, especially if you go to vastly different schools. Reading CVisiting Friends at College8. DONT forget to say thank you. Its the little things that count, so make sure you show your appreciation at the end of your visit by letting your host know. One especially personal way to show your
42、 gratitude is by sending a personal, hand-written thank you note. Reading CIWork in groups and play the roles of host, hostess or guest in turns.Exercises John Smith, the manager of your department, invited you and your wife to join a family dinner at his home on New Years Eve. You and your wife are
43、 now at the doorsteps of Mr. Smiths house, ringing the doorbell.Role A: Mr. SmithRole B: Mrs. SmithRole C: youRole D: your wife IWork in groups and play the roles of host, hostess or guest in turns.ExercisesRole A: open the door, invite the guests into the roomRole C: greet the host, introduce Role
44、DRole A: greet Role D and introduce Role BRole D : greet Role A & B, give the gift to the host and hostessRole A: thank the guests for the gift, offer the guests a small tour around the house Role C & D: make some small talks while touring the house, pay some compliments to hosts houseRole B: tell e
45、verybody dinner is ready, invite the guests to be seatedRole C&D: pay some compliments to the food, make a toast to the host and hostessII. Read the following article and decide whether the following statements are TRUE or FALSE. ExercisesVisiting a Foreign Country: 9 Ways of Reducing the Eccentrici
46、ty in a Strange Land Traveling out of the country is among the most wonderful experiences you could ever have. Having the chance to see and explore a new environment, meet people of other nationalities, taste different food and cuisine, and experience another culture apart from yours are just a few
47、exciting benefits of visiting a foreign land. However, since you will be virtually in an unknown place to you, you must make an effort to make sure your trip will be something you will enjoy. To lessen the eccentricity in a strange land, consider the following survival guidelines: II. Read the follo
48、wing article and decide whether the following statements are TRUE or FALSE. Exercises 1. Do not be completely ignorant about your destination. Read some books or surf the Internet about the place you intend to go to in order to find out important information, including the places weather, food, peop
49、le, and tourist attractions. Doing your homework will also save you time because you can find out right away which places you can visit and what activities you can do. 2. Learn about the places culture to prevent doing something unusual or, worse, offensive to its people. Remember, you are the visit
50、or so you should be the one to adjust.II. Read the following article and decide whether the following statements are TRUE or FALSE. Exercises 3. When it comes to packing, be sure to remember to bring all necessary documents, including your passport, visa, and insurance papers. Instead of cash, it is
