1、Unit 3 Unit 3 Getting along with others To understand why Amy had a problem with her best friend To know what advice Cindy and David offered To learn how to maintain friendships in daily lives 1. Do you think there are “friends for life”? why or why not? 2. Would you turn to online communities for a
2、dvice about maintaining friendships? Why or why not? 3. What will life be like if you have no friends? Watch and think: Read the video script above and answer the questions. I have no friends Some people say I have no friends when theyre complaining about the friends that they do have. Its just a pl
3、aceholder (托辞托辞) for my friends are too busy to hang out right now or it can also be used to indicate (表明表明) the quality of someones friendship, like when youre in middle school and hating yourself and the world and you just desperately want to hang out with someone who hates the same thing as you.
4、In this instance I have no friends means my friends dont really connect with the situation Im dealing with. Question 1 Why does the speaker have no friends? Because her friends are too busy to hang out with her and they cannot really connect with the situation he is dealing with. Watch the later par
5、t: When I say I have no friends, I mean it quite literally (字面上字面上). I can easily go an entire week and only receive text from mom. Thats how many friends I have. You might feel a little uncomfortable when I say I have no friends but why is that? For a long time I was ashamed of my friend lessness a
6、nd I never acknowledged it although I suspect the people knew, and shame really refers to a feeling about who you are as a person. So it was distressing (令人痛苦的令人痛苦的) to grapple (努力克服努力克服) with what I saw as a defect ( 缺陷缺陷) in my character. I further rationalized (使更合理使更合理) that if I didnt acknowled
7、ge it that meant I didnt have to deal with it or my longtime underlying (隐藏的隐藏的) problems, but none of that is true. It is true that my lack of friends doesnt reflect my inherent (原原 本的本的) value but nonetheless my admission is pretty taboo (禁忌禁忌). I think we feel uncomfortable with my admission beca
8、use we share the implicit (未言明未言明的的) belief that friends enrich the quality of our lives. Not having friends may be a marker of an unfulfilled life and it makes us sad to see people living contrary to their wellbeing. Question 2 & 3 How did the speaker feel about her lack of friends? She felt ashame
9、d. Generally speaking, what friends can benefit us? Friends can enrich our lives. So the speaker has a problem with her friends. Her friendship is on the rocks. Read Amys problem with her best friend Jenny and two replies. Please advise! What does “on the rocks” mean? having difficulties and likely
10、to fail soon 1. Whats Paragraph 1 mainly about? A. The previous friendship between Amy and her best friend. B. The serious problem between Amy and her best friend. C. The huge gap between Amy and her best friends family backgrounds. D. The proper balance between Amy and her best friends work and pla
11、y. Choose the best answer. 2. Why did Amys friend break her promise last Saturday afternoon? A. Because she didnt feel herself. B. Because she had a message to post. C. Because she had an unexpected visitor. D. Because she desired to get some rest at home. Notes: not feel oneself: 身体不舒服身体不舒服，心情不好心情不
12、好 3. What did Amy and her friend do after the problem with their friendship arose? A. Her friend avoided Amy. B. Amy chose to keep silent. C. Amy quarreled with her friend. D. Her friend failed to respond to Amys message. 4. What advice did Cindy and David give Amy? A. Cindy advised her to solve the
13、 problem quickly. B. David advised her to let go of the friendship immediately. C. Both Cindy and David advised her to accept the reality. D. Both Cindy and David advised her to communicate with her friend. 5. What is the forum exchange mainly about? A. How to make friends. B. How to manage friendsh
14、ip. C. Amys problem and suggestions. D. The terrible friendship between Amy and her friend. 1. Did Amys friend really lie to her? What might be the truth? One possible answer: I dont think so. Probably, Amys friend got a call from a friend last Saturday afternoon who she hadnt contacted for long and
15、 the friend insisted on asking her out for coffee so that Amys friend had no choice but to agree. I think Amy was to blame more. Because Amy kept ignoring her friend and she didnt respond to her friends online messages. OR: I think Amys friend was to blame more. She should have talked to Amy face to
16、 face. 2. Who was to blame more for the broken friendship? Why? A. Understanding the text Read the forum exchange on pages 30-31 and complete the chart below. Amys problem Saturday morning: Amys friend said she was ill and might not be able to make it to the cinema. Saturday afternoon: (1)_ _ Monday
17、: (2)_ _ Advice given Cindy: (3)_ _ David: (4)_ _ _ Amy failed to see her friend. Amy found her friend had lied to her. This friendship is worth saving. Its time to rethink the relationship. 1. How did Amy view her friend before? _ 2. What did Amy and her friend plan to do last Saturday afternoon? _
18、 3. How did Amy learn that her friend went to a caf? _ She viewed her almost as a sister. They planned to see a film at the cinema. Through a classmate. Read the forum exchange again carefully and answer the following questions. 4. What does Cindy mean by “her behaviour” in line 20? _ _ _ 5. In what
19、 case is it time to rethink a friendship, according to David? _ _ She told Amy she was ill and couldnt make it to the cinema but chatted with another girl in a caf. Amys friend ignores her feelings or makes her suffer. 1. What are the similarities and differences between Cindys and Davids advice? In
20、 pairs, discuss the following questions. Similarities: Dont be quick to judge her friend. Talk to her friend. Differences: Cindy thought the friendship was worth saving while David thought it was time to rethink her relationship. 2. What helpful advice can you offer Amy? Draw on your own experiences
21、 to give a reply to her post. 3. Imagine your friend has lied to you. How would you respond? B. Building your language Complete the conversation with the correct forms of the words and phrases in the box below. apologize ignore horrible in the wrong recover respond let go of at a loss Carl: Hi, Jenn
22、y! It looks like youre under a lot of stress. Whats wrong? Jenny: I feel (1) _. Amy misunderstood me. She is really angry and Im (2) _ what to do. Carl: What happened between you two? Jenny: Amy felt like watching a film last Saturday but the plan was cancelled because I was ill. I spent the morning
23、 (3) _at home. Then I got a call from a friend whom I hadnt contacted for a long time. She asked me out for coffee. horrible at a loss recovering apologize ignore horrible in the wrong recover respond let go of at a loss misunderstand v. 误解误解 mis-：错的，错误的错的，错误的 eg mistake, mislead contact vt. & n. 联系
24、，联络联系，联络 【拓展拓展】 be/stay/keep in contact with sb have contact with make contact with get in contact with lose contact with social contact human contact face-to-face contact 与与保持联系保持联系 与与有联系有联系 与与取得联系取得联系 与与取得联系取得联系 与与失去联系失去联系 社会交往社会交往 人际人际交往交往 当面交流当面交流 Carl: So you went to meet her? Jenny: Yes, I did
25、. When Amy found out, she exploded with anger. I wanted to explain, but she just kept (4) _me. I sent her several messages, but she never (5) _. I really dont want to (6) _our friendship. Do you think I should (7) _ ? ignoring responded let go of apologize apologize ignore horrible in the wrong reco
26、ver respond let go of at a loss explode v. 爆发；迸发爆发；迸发 explode with/into explode with laughter Carl: No, you arent (8) _. But you should talk to her face to face. Amy is a generous person. Shell understand. in the wrong apologize ignore horrible in the wrong recover respond let go of at a loss “Frien
27、d” and “friendship” appear in the forum exchange as part of different collocations. Tip Learning collocations A collocation is a group of words which commonly appear together. Using collocations will make your speech or writing more natural. Read English books, watch English films or listen to Engli
28、sh news, and you will learn more collocations. Read the examples below and add more collocations. friendship v.+friendship friendship+v. adj.+friendshi p form a friendship lose a friendship develop a friendship save a friendship a friendship grows a friendship lasts a friendship exists a close frien
29、dship a lifelong friendship a deep friendship frien d adj. + friend v.+ friend my close friend an old friend a new friend my best friend make friends become friends lose friends stay friends win friends The forum exchange uses contrastive linking words to join sentences. Find the sentences in the ex
30、change and improve the short paragraph below using proper linking words. Learn this We use linking words like instead and however to show contrast. This way, sentences become more structured. Here are more common contrastive linking words: on the other hand, yet, but, while, though, although, still,
31、 etc. There are many important things in life. Not everyone agrees on which is the most important. Some people say health. Others say things like a good job. For me, the most important thing in life is friendship. I cannot imagine living without it. There are many important things in life, but not e
32、veryone agrees on which is the most important. Some people say health, while others say things like a good job. Yet for me, the most important thing in life is friendship. I cannot imagine living without it. Write a short reply (at least 100 words) to Amy about how she should solve the problem with her friend. You can rely on your own experiences if necessary.
